Did you know that over a third of marriages end in divorce! Over 2 million couples file for divorce each year and probably twice that number are going through marital problems. So first of all let me tell you that you are not alone! However, if you are reading this then you probably want to do something about it and save your relationship. So if you don' t want to become another statistic and you are facing the dilemma "how to save a marriage quickly" then this might just help you.
One of the first things you have to do when faced with this situation is to change the way that you think and act. You need to start thinking rationally, however hard this may seem, and above all stay calm. There is absolutely no point in ranting and raving as this will only succeed to drive your partner even further away from you. When decisions have to be made, make sure that you are thinking with your head and not with your heart. If you feel yourself getting wound up then walk away. When you start thinking rationally and calmly, this will have a positive effect on your partner. You see, every positive action that you take from now on will evoke a positive reaction or response from your spouse.
When faced with a marital problem it can be very difficult to be positive about your partner, as often feelings of frustration, anger and even resentment can come to the fore. However you need to remember what you are trying to achieve. So push these thoughts to the back of your mind, and instead try to be committed to understanding your partner's wants and needs, as chances are, they might have been neglected in the past. Once you find out how they are feeling and what they really want, then act upon this to try to bring about change.
It is inevitable that change is required if you need to save your marriage, so be positive and receptive to this change. Take the bull by the horns and start to make it happen. Start thinking introspectively and ask yourself "what can I do to make myself a better partner" reflect on what has gone on in the past and make the necessary changes needed to fix your relationship.
Another thing to remember is when you are faced with losing someone it is very easy to resort to begging tactics to get them to stay. This is a natural instinct, but all this does is drive them even further away. Also showering them with gifts and flowers is not the answer, as you cannot buy your partners love. You need to respect their wishes and above all respect yourself.